Standing Out With Vinyl Lingerie

If you are looking for a fun and exciting way to spice up your love life or just stand out from the crowd, look no further than slipping on some sexy vinyl lingerie. Vinyl is an awesome material that is perfect for making you look sexy and original.

Vinyl lingerie can go a long way toward helping you make an original statement. Unlike any other material, vinyl is shiny and has a cool synthetic look to it. It is far from looking soft or natural and this is part of its beauty.

Scientists invented vinyl in the 1920′s. Of course these scientists never thought that their discovery would play such a sexy role in society. Vinyl is now the second largest plastic produced in the world in terms of total volume. In fact, in the year two thousand, North American production of vinyl resin was 14.6 billion pounds. That is a whole lot of sexy!

One of the cool things about vinyl is that being plastic means it has no real limitations on the shapes and sizes it can form. This helps to widen the selection of available sexy vinyl lingerie dramatically.

For instance, you can make a tiny vinyl mini bra and g-string that looks like no other. It shines and looks slippery and definitely appealing. Or how about a lace up vinyl corset in shiny black? One of my vinyl lingerie items is a pair of vinyl cheeky shorts. They are very smooth and the way they stretch around the buttocks, thighs and waist is extremely attractive and unique.

Vinyl is also the perfect material for making other sexy vinyl clothing items. Sexy costumes made out of vinyl include, sexy school girl costumes, hot taxi driver outfits, sexy vinyl nurse costumes, biker babe costumes, sexy waitress costumes and any thing else your imagination can muster!

So while many people still think of vinyl uses only in terms of medical, construction, toys, packaging, automotive, and electronics, it is plain to see that vinyl lingerie can take your clothing and lingerie experiences to new shiny and sexy heights.

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Understanding Your Sexuality

Exploring your sexuality can be pretty unnerving because you’re in that state of mind where you’re starting to understand yourself in a way that tells a lot about you and who you are as a person. It is also having a high understanding of yourself from the inside out as an individual and how your body responds to sex and different things involving sex. It happens even more in a relationship with someone because you have different feelings towards things by your significant other or partner.

Sex therapists do a lot of research on how people respond to sex with a steady partner or multiple partners and in their therapy sessions they can work with people at different levels of their own individual sexuality and helping them to work through issues surrounding them understanding their sexuality.

Even more now when people transcend through relationships and not really settling into something serious and having many partners, it can be confusing to understand yourself sexually because people change preferences so much they don’t stay on one thing for long. Society tells you that you have to speed through the process of understanding your sexuality, which is not really having a chance to getting to know parts of yourself that nobody really knows about.

People discover themselves in different ways and develop themselves in many ways. Understanding the most intimate parts of you comes with also understanding how the outside world can play into a single person’s understanding of their sexuality, and this is what makes it the most complex deal when it comes to counselors when they advise people of understanding themselves. Only a single individual can truly understand their own sexuality and how it affects them, and whether seek out advice from a health professional if they need help in dealing with complex issues they can’t work out on their own.

Exploring different things can actually be among the many things that also include understanding your body. That’s the thing many people deal with, is trying to understand their body’s reaction to different sex techniques. There are countless books out there written by therapists and health professionals who try to use their research and knowledge to help people deal with common issues surrounding their relationships, whether exclusive or not.

This is one of the biggest issues – how effective is the research many clinicians do to deal with people who try to understand their sexuality in their relationships, and how they go about helping them to resolve any issues they have with understanding their sexuality in their everyday relationships, dating or otherwise.

Understanding your sexuality is a gradual process which many people deal with for years through experience in relationships and everyday exposure to people who they have interactions with. Studying one’s sexuality is like educating yourself, analyzing what you learn through your relationships and learning how you react and change with things that you experience intimately, which can play itself out in the relationships one has in his or her life.

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The Complete Guide To Safe Sex

Long before AIDS made an entry into our dictionaries and our daily paranoias, there were other sexual scares: syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia and genital warts, to name a few. But no one really talked those days about safe sex (although some of these other sexually-transmitted infections could also eventually cost victims their lives). In stopping sexual permissiveness dead in its tracks, AIDS may well have done us a favour: because, the careful sexual behaviour that is our best security against AIDS also constitutes our best protection against other Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs).

The essence of safe sex is avoiding high-risk partners and practices, and using condom-management strategies. But when it comes down to the specifics, many questions arise:

Who are the high-risk sexual partners?

The high-risk groups are homosexuals, bi-sexuals, prostitutes, intravenous drug abusers; heterosexuals from Central Africa where AIDS is common; those who have had multiple blood transfusions in areas where AIDS is rampant. Sexual episodes with high-risk partners are the most common way the infection is passed on.

The risk of acquiring AIDS from one penis-vaginal intercourse episode with someone from a high-risk group has been estimated to be: (with condom) – 1 in 100,000 to 1 in 10,000; (without condom) – 1 in 10,000 to 1 in 1000. (The wide range of odds is because of different rates of infection among high-risk groups).

Of course, someone who’s not a high-risk partner is not necessarily a no-risk partner. When two people sleep together, it’s essentially group sex: they are in effect sleeping with everyone each of them has slept with in the past five to ten years.

How many sexual encounters with a high-risk partner would it take for the virus to be transmitted?

The virus can be transmitted through just one sexual encounter with an infected person. But the chances are less than in the case of multiple encounters with high-risk persons. In one study at the University of California, less than 10 out of 100 persons were found to have contracted the virus through a single sexual encounter with an infected person. But another study found that the odds got steadily worse with continuous sexual activity with an infected partner over a two-year periods – 12 out of 14 people ended up infected.

That is why another cardinal commandment of safe sex: avoid multiple sexual partners. Especially if they are unknown, casual partners, you have no way of knowing which of them is infected, and with every encounter, the laws of probability favour you less and less. Sex with a single, known, trustworthy partner is one of your best armour devices against serious infection. So, if you’ve tried the rest, now try the best: monogamy!

Is a man more likely to give the infection to a woman than the other way round?

Sperm does appear to contain a higher concentration of the virus then vaginal secretions and the virus does appear to be more efficiently transmitted from men to women then from women to men. But men shouldn’t get too smug about this. In Africa, where the disease has had more time to do its work, there’s a one-to-one infection ratio between men and women.

Which is the most risky sexual practice?

Without question, anal intercourse without a condom. The walls of the rectum are thinner than the vaginal walls and therefore more prone to abrasions and tears. So, the AIDS virus from an infected partner’s semen is absorbed more easily during anal sex.

Other high-risk practices (with an infected partner) are condomless vaginal intercourse fellatio, cunnilingus, the sharing of insertive sex toys and anything that would involve blood contact.

Moderate-risk practices are French kissing, oral sex using condoms, vaginal sex using condoms and spermicide, and anal intercourse using condoms and spermicide.

How safe is kissing?

The AIDS virus is carried by bodily fluids – apart from semen and blood, that includes urine, vaginal secretions, tears, saliva and even faeces.

Does that make practices like oral sex and ‘tongue kissing’ unsafe? The virus is found only rarely in saliva. In a study of 83 patients (reported in The New England Journal of Medicine), the virus was detected in the saliva of only one.

In another study reported in the same journal, in families where an AIDS -infected member shared food, drink, cutlery and crockery with the others, not a single non-infected person caught the virus.

In these same households, members kissed each other without spreading AIDS. Kissing on the cheeks and lips appears to be perfectly safe. And, to date, there’s no evidence that saliva transmits the virus.

Still, since the virus has been isolated in saliva (although in rare cases), caution is the better part of l’amour, especially where deep kissing or French kissing – the kind that curls your toes – is concerned. In the U.S., the Surgeon-General has advised against it. While there has been no documented case of the spread of AIDS in this way, it would be difficult to document because people who start with this kind of kissing often don’t stop there. Although most researchers feel that transmission is unlikely even from erotic kissing because there probably wouldn’t be an adequate amount of virus in the saliva or a sufficient amount of saliva exchanged, the fact remains that it’s theoretically possible.

How risky is oral sex?

So far, researchers haven’t confirmed a single case – in either homosexuals or heterosexuals – attributable to it. But, as with deep kissing, it’s difficult to document because oral sex so often goes along with other sexual activities. Therefore, the experts advise against letting semen enter the mouth. The risk is lowered if the man wears a condom or doesn’t ejaculate in his partner’s mouth. But both need to remember that a small amount of the virus may be present in the pre-ejaculatory fluid.

Oral sex is less risky for a heterosexual man, because he usually comes in contact with less fluids. Still, the virus can exist in small concentration in vaginal fluids.

What are the safe-sex activities you can indulge in with a partner of doubtful credentials?

There are several such activities you can enjoy short of intercourse: dry kissing, hugging and caressing, massage and mutual masturbation (provided the man does not ejaculate near the woman’s vagina; and provided vaginal secretion do not come in contact with broken skin).

Don’t condoms offer foolproof protection against STDs?

Condoms have been shown to be laboratory-effective in blocking the transmission of gonorrhea, syphilis and herpes. The most efficient are latex condoms which have been studied under the electron microscope – neither bacteria nor viruses have been able to penetrate them. That includes the AIDS virus, which is about 25 times smaller than a sperm.

Some experts however have their doubts about the efficacy of condoms made from natural skin, such as lambskin, in blocking transmission of the microscopic AIDS virus. These condoms are made of hundreds of layers of porous collagen. Although the chances of a virus navigating through them are slim, lab tests have shown it’s possible.

However: Even with latex condoms, when it comes down to actual practice, they have never been anywhere near 100 per cent reliable. They slip, they break, and people often don’t use them soon enough, or withdraw them carefully enough. Consider this noteworthy statistic: one out of 10 women who rely on condoms as contraception still get pregnant each year – although contraception can occur only a few days each month. In contrast, you are susceptible to the AIDS virus 365 days a year.

Here’s how condoms fared in one real-life study of couples, one of whom was infected and relied on condoms to prevent the spread of the virus to the non-infected partner. After using condoms for between one to three years, three of the 18 spouses contracted the virus, a failure rate of 17 per cent. Says the study’s chief researcher, Margaret Fischl of the University Of Miami School Of Medicine, “Our study shows that using condoms decreases the risk, but clearly it’s not a foolproof system”. Evidently, there is still no such thing as ‘safe sex’ with an infected partner – only degrees of risk.

How can you improve your margin of safety using condoms?

One of the best ways is to use them in tandem with s spermicide which contains the active ingredient nonoxynol-9. This ingredient has been shown to kill the herpes and AIDS viruses (at least under lab conditions).
Choose latex condoms over those made of animal membrane such as lambskin. Latex is less porous.
Choose the well-known brands. They are more likely to have undergone thorough testing and less likely to have undetected holes.
As a general rule, the thicker the condom the greater your margin of safety. (That again makes latex your best bet).
Check that the condom you use has a reservoir or receptacle at the end so that semen can’t spill over the sides during ejaculation. By catching semen in its reservoir, this kind of condom also lowers rupture risks to near-zero.
Never use petroleum-based lubricants such as petroleum jelly with a latex condom – they will cause the latex to disintegrate. But, lubrication does help prevent condom from tearing. Use K-Y jelly, water or – best of all – a spermicide containing nonoxynol-9. (Do not use saliva).
Put on the condom as soon as erection occurs, don’t wait until ejaculation is imminent – some viruses may escape in the pre-ejaculatory fluid.
When you remove the condom from its wrapper and place it over the tip of your penis, make sure it doesn’t catch on a ring or fingernail.
The condom should seal tightly to your skin. A condom that makes hasty withdrawal necessary, and semen spillage possible, is injurious to your partner’s health!
Withdraw right after ejaculation, because if the erection is lost the condom may slip off, allowing semen to escape. Hold on to the rim of the condom as the penis is being withdrawn.
Dispose of the condom safely so that no one (a child, for example) could accidentally come in contact with semen.
Don’t ‘store’ a pare condom in your wallet or the glove compartment of your car. Heat damages latex. Condoms should be stored in a cool, dry place like a bedside drawer.
What else, in the sexual arena, increases your risk of catching AIDS?
Sexually transmitted diseases, particularly syphilis and chancroid, are associated with genital ulcers, which allow the HIV virus easy access to the bloodstream.

Isn’t there any foolproof protection against AIDS?

There are two. One is to stay celibate: an answer which, for most of us, is of course a non-answer.

The second is to have sex only with a partner who has been tested for AIDS. But this is not an easy, or practical, as it sounds. It arises from the fact that the so-called “AIDS test” is not really a test for AIDS at all. It is a blood test that detects the presence of antibodies produced by the body to fight the invading virus – called the Human Immunodeficiency Virus. (It’s therefore called the HIV test). If the test detects these antibodies, what it means is that, at some point of time, the person was infected by the virus.

However – and this is where the main snag arises – it takes anything from a fortnight to six months for the body to produce the HIV antibodies. This is the so-called “window phase” – the period during which the infection, while already present, may not be signaled by the test because the antibodies haven’t yet been produced. What this means is that a negative result on the HIV test (no antibodies) is valid only if the test has been done at least six months after the last sexual exposure.

On the other hand, there have also been problems with the use of the ELISA test to detect HIV antibodies – quite commonly, especially in the case of heterosexuals, ELISA has shown false positives! To exclude the possibility of error, a positive result with ELISA must be confirmed with the so-called Western Blot test. If the results are confirmed, that’s bad news, but both tests should be repeated a few weeks later to ensure that there was no mix-up in blood samples in the lab.

However, even if a potential sexual partner has been certified as HIV-negative, remember that sex with such a partner is ‘safe’ only until his/her next sexual encounter. After that, as they say, all bets are off. (Unless, of course, you and this partner enter into a mutually monogamous relationship – after you too have tested negative!)

What’s the bottomline in safe sex?

It’s that, where safe sex is concerned, it’s better to be a believer in healthy overreaction than to go by the no-case-yet norm. As late as 1984, the medical world was saying we have ‘no case yet’ of the heterosexual spread of AIDS. One year later, oops, we’d got one. Since AIDS may have a few other unhealthy surprises in store, it’s better to err on the side of caution.

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Sex: When Should a Couple Take the Next Step?

In today’s instant-everything world, knowing how to navigate the road of love most often seems to lack substance, commitment, and time. With help from the Free Love Movement of the Sixties, tradition has given way to one-night stands, cell-phone apps like Grinder and Hook-up, and women finally have complete control over sex through birth control. In fact, women have more power than ever! In many ways this is a GREAT thing, but often times this new sense of power makes it too easy to skip all the traditional dating nuances and get right to the business of sex. At first this may seem easy and hassle-free, but when it comes to building an intimate, long-term relationship, can having sex too soon be destructive instead of constructive? How long should a couple wait before taking that next step? In this new and equal playground for men and women, it is essential to create a bond and a level of trust before deciding to have sex. We humans possess a deep sea of emotions and feelings. Adding sex into the equation too soon can really add unnecessary turmoil to something that is already so complex.

As a traditional Matchmaker and relationship advisor, I strongly believe there are many different scenarios we play out in our heads when it comes to how we perceive a given situation, and not all of them maybe be accurate. There is an old adage which says that “women play with sex to get love, men play with love to get sex”. While it is true, there is so much more to it than that, as there are many subconscious factors that can play into these roles. What are the parties involved looking for? Is it that both want control? Both want security? Both want acceptance? If we take the time to explore some of the thoughts and emotions men and women experience in their relationships, it gets a little easier to understand why there is so much uncertainty. I can recall hearing from male clients that when sex came into play, they too had an emotional connection with their new partner, only to find that person had then moved on after having sex. Their reason for taking that step too soon? “She seemed ready to go so I let things happen.” Alternately, I have heard female clients say, “but there was such an immediate connection, it seemed natural to connect even more with sex.” Here both parties are getting caught up in the passion and lust of their newfound romance. They forget to stop, breathe, and think clearly about what they both ultimately want from the situation.

To mitigate the emotional damages from this unconscious want, both parties must be and remain in the conscious present. Take the time to get to know one another and set a strong foundation on which to build your love and friendship; establish trust and a solid communication base first. Without it, the days and weeks following the initial sexual encounter can be very confusing and intimidating. The only way to find out if the connection is there is by putting in the time and communication as outlined above. There used to be a term for that, what was it again? Oh yes, I think it used to be called courtship! You know, that long-forgotten concept of approaching a potential mate with respect and aspiration that goes beyond just “hooking up”. The problem is in today’s world it seems that courtship has gotten steamrolled and congested by many different new standards. Standards that seek to expedite everything and lump every relationship into one standard rulebook. Unraveling what was proper dating protocol and what it has become now is key. Do this and if your mate has any potential, you will see the significant signs of a committed relationship developing. When you have dating confidence, aka love and respect for yourself, you will know when the time is right to have sex. You can then add this as a beautiful building block to your new, intimate, loving relationship.

So let’s go back to what is tried and true, the way it naturally happened back in the good days: boy meets girl, they get to know each other, girl “waits it out” to make sure the boy is worth it, and from there great things happen for both of them. When a man understands the value of a woman and pursues her with the respect she deserves, the woman reciprocates with the same respect and kind gestures of admiration. So much love and passion can come from this.

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The Paradox of Sex

It could be argued that sex is the only addiction that is unavoidable. Addiction to alcohol, tobacco and hard and soft drugs can be avoided by merely not starting to take them. Similarly, nobody need become addicted to gambling if they decline the first invitation to put a nickel in the one-armed bandit or to fill a football-pools coupon. All these potential addictions depend upon an outside agency, a substance and a system, but the sexual instinct is inside us and we have no easy escape from its clutches. It is perhaps for this reason that sex seems to occupy a bigger place in our lives than objective reason would allow.

Different communities have sought to control sex in different ways, and control has been exercised mainly through the agency of religion. Long ago, strict regulation was the norm. Within Christianity, chastity was held to be the highest estate and marriage was seen as a refuge for those who couldn’t be priests, monks or nuns. There were some individuals for whom chastity was an attainable goal, but for the majority it was never achieved, and in recent times, the failure has resulted in many distressing cases of suppressed sexuality leading to quasi-institutional paedophilia.

Islam wrestled with the problem of sex and introduced some practical solutions. These included allowing polygamy up to the number of four wives with no age restrictions. Women were compelled to completely cover their bodies to avoid rousing male passions. Chastity was achieved where it was needed by castration and the employment of eunuchs, and in some Islamic and non-Islamic societies the female sex drive was reduced by genital manipulation. Harsh punishments were applied if the rules were broken. The system appears to have been effective in improving the control of the passions in turbulent and lawless times, but it is clearly at variance with modern concepts of human rights, gender equality and the care of juveniles.

In the wider communities in western countries, monogamy had long been the norm, and sex before or outside of marriage was condemned, as were all deviations from the heterosexual relationship. Gradually, with time, these bonds have been loosened to the point today when every conceivable form of association between consenting adults is sanctioned. Of consensual relationships, only association with juveniles is illegal and extensively regarded as sinful. Although still widely practised, its frequent exposure is greeted with universal expressions of horror from the general public and popular media. Less easy to understand is the eager exposure and enthusiastic condemnation of every minor sexual deviation by a person in the public eye.

So, after centuries of wrestling with the problem of sexuality, the paradox remains. The generosity of the human spirit moves quietly towards universal freedom to follow the inner compulsions, while a sense of guilt condemns weakness and howls loudly against those who transgress. The self-inflicted addictions are avoidable, but sex remains an innate challenge for both the individual and for society.

John Powell

John Powell weaves a tale of romance, tension and intrigue into the lives and loves of Kwame Mainu and his family and friends, against the rich social, cultural, economic and political background of the first four decades of Ghana’s independence, in his two novels: The Colonial Gentleman’s Son and Return to the Garden City.

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